Fathers need a divine plan to raising their children…

Without you, they will become misdirected souls.

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. {Proverbs 22:6}

When men get together, they can do anything, but too often when it comes to their kids, they never seem to have the time needed to get the job done, and this is where the children suffer. As a man, I am fully aware of what the laws on kids are, but many other men haven’t got a clue. Also, unsaved women with a vengeance know that a child is money in the bank. Such females will not hesitate to take you to court when you break up with her or get another woman. So, through her fury she will get pregnant, as a way to keep you or just get revenge money from you by way of a child. Not all mothers are like this, but trust me, there are many. In many cases brothers, it is your own fault because your unsanctioned desire for sex outweighs any other logic. She is not your wife so leave her alone! Or if you still go hunting, you should show due diligence by putting on a condom. However, when you fail to do what you should have, then there should never be any cause for you to become bitter and angry when child support comes knocking at your door. As this is a fact, we must now either control our sexual urges or continue down this road of paying every dime we have to the agency. Listen brothers in God, there is a way to control your worldly desires, and here is just one way to achieve this goal.

But if ye will not drive out the inhabitants of the land from before you; then it shall come to pass, that those which ye let remain of them shall be pricks in your eyes, and thorns in your sides, and shall vex you in the land wherein ye dwell. {Numbers 33:55}

In other words, if you are not saved, the devil will cause you to desire the female flesh that is not yours; meaning to say, she is not your wife, so you should not seek after her. However, if you are not a saved man, well then you will do whatever the devil tells you to do, and you will forever be chasing after sex all the days of your life. Again, this is because it is a thorn in your side. The only way to drive out the sexual thoughts that the devil will bombard your mind with is to be saved through the salvation plan of the Lord. Without Gods power working in you, there is no way for you to drive out the lust demons that can live inside of you. What I would like to do is help you--the man--come to an understanding as to what you have done, and how it is hurting the kids you help bring into this world. The truth you need to digest is this. You went out on a lustful adventure, and you cared not to consider your worldly actions. Meaning to say, you did not care about any consequences. You just wanted to feast on the weaker flesh because you know it was plentiful. Meaning to say, men who are lovers of pleasures and rejectors of God who have not yet presented their bodies or minds to the Lord; therefore, they are now without a divine plan from the Lord’s will for them. So, what they will do is hunt down the weaker vessels and gorge on their flesh. Let us read the word of God.

For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lust, Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. {2 Timothy 3:6-7}

Listen, when you sleep with so many silly women, who can be rich, poor, or well educated, and then you cross her, well don’t think that she will not pursue you because you my friend will be wrong. Listen, you might have thought it was just a one night stand, so you moved onto the next victim until you received information telling you that some female that you slept with is pregnant. Now you are furious and want to fight. As an earthly man your mind could never consider the fact that you have been blinded by the devil who placed the vagina into your mind as a pleasure that you cannot do without. You had to have it at any cost. So, it became your god of choice, and you consistently sought after it. Ok, the Bible says this:

Thou shall have no other gods before me. {Exodus 20:3}

When lust consumes you, you no longer are in control of your urges, and that is how you can fall. In this cove, your thoughts are singular, and they will not be on your kids and what is the best for them. Just satisfying your needs is your destiny. A man without God as his leader is a man who can never lead his own self in any clear direction. Therefore, if a child is brought into this world, it will most likely be a fatherless child. Nevertheless, you need to get this. God is holding you accountable for every child you bring into this earth. Having said that, please allow me to share this with you.

Listen to me very carefully, please. Without your guidance as a man, your children will never have a fair chance to properly develop into the men and women they can truly be. Fathers, I know how hard it is as a dad when the world’s rules are always trying to dethrone us from the home while placing all the power in the hands of many unsaved mothers who are not concerned with the welfare of the children but rather how she can hurt you after she has satisfied her sexual desires, and then she gets a check. Regardless to what the world and some unsaved mothers are doing, we are responsible for our own children in every way. We cannot even for a moment willfully neglect these children. If we do not lead them, the devil will. Without your leadership, your children will most likely have countless encounters with difficulties. It shall be at that time they will be able to act upon what you have taught them or what you did not teach them. Your kids must have all your guidance, because there is no other way for them to fight their way through this sinful world. They must have some valid information that will guide them. They need you in the home, and if you cannot be there then you need to make a way to be in their lives as much as possible. Boys need a man to show them the way through examples. Brothers, you must remember that a woman cannot raise a man, but she can raise a child. Only a man can do that. So, I say to you men who are filled with anger. Get it together; stop being selfish and do your duty. I know child support agencies are not men friendly, but if you made that child, pay your payments, and stop getting infuriated. Listen, being a real man means taking full responsibility for all your own actions. Once more, I must tell you this again. Whether you want to except it or not, God is holding you, the head, totally responsible for your household. I too had to pay child support, but I did it because I loved my children. You do not need to converse with the mother unless it is a matter concerning the children. That way you will not have to harbor hatred for her, because I know that for some men just hearing the voice of his ex makes him go off. Fathers, you must learn how to be more understanding when it comes to your children. The Bible say this to you:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. {Ephesians 6:4}

Sometimes when you have not been there for them a wall has been placed between you and them. So, do not think just because you finally showed up that they are supposed to jump all over you with joy. As you have read, when your child does not feel love from you, it can cause them to become rebellious. Also, I will add that your actions can cause your female child to build up hatred toward all men. Fathers, I have heard this statement too many times, “All men are dogs, and they can’t be trusted; they say one thing but do another.” Are you hearing this Brothers? Because you do not spend quality time with them, they will lose respect for you and your authority. This is called, provoking them to say and do what they would not have considered, because your love was not implanted within their hearts and minds. Listen, some of you fathers need to know that your car is not more important than a child. The same amount of time and care you give to your car can be given to your own child. Again, you need to know girls need their dad as well, because they are filled with emotions, they will respond in many ways towards you. This means that you must learn how to treat her. Otherwise, I guarantee you this, she will shut down and will not receive anything from you. Again, children are different; therefore, your approach must be discrete as well. Yelling and punishing them is not the answer. When a situation arises, and you have not prayed or investigated the whole matter then you will handle that situation wrong.

The Bible makes it plain as it can get as it teaches us that we are to watch as well as pray. This lesson should be incorporated into our way of life. Without this vital coverage, we are vulnerable and may become victimized for the rest of our lives. Listen, if you have a daughter and she is raped or molested by some man or boy, she will blame you because you never had the time to take her with you. As it is in many cases, when you have a mother who is only concerned with how she can be with the next man, a child can be placed in a danger zone. I cannot say this enough. As a little girl, if she finds herself in a situation as a result of you not having time for her, and if for some reason she is molested or raped, once more you will bear the blame and she will be provoked by your actions. This means, you are violating Gods rules for you as a father to do your duty no matter what they cost.

What am I saying? Since your children are gifts from God, you need to regard them as priceless Gems. The only way we can truly protect them is for us as the parents to have the Lord’s Spirit living in us. Then as we walk in the newness, God's Spirit shall always illuminate to us the evil plans of the enemy. In other words, when the devil is going to do something to you or your children, God will show it to you. And through prayer you can stop the plan before it has a chance to be carried out. Listen, I am not just talking to sound good. I have received a warning in the form of dreams many times, or I get a strong feeling that something is going down. At that point, I go into protective mode concerning my children. What am I saying? As a child I was mentally, physically, and sexually abused all because my mother did not observe as she should have. Since we are living in a world where men and women are filled with all kind of demons, our children always need to be cared for. As a father, I never let my girls go anywhere that I did not feel was safe. If I even thought that anything was not right in the place where they were going to spend the night, I would go and get them. I did not care who got mad. I did not give any explanations: I just got my babies and left. I know of too many children who were molested by family members. Now I am not saying that all family members are like that. What I am saying is this, you have a responsibility to know who will be around your children. Again, without God in your life you do not know what can happen to your babies. Only a God given gift of discernment can guide you. In your own home negligence can sneak in and then abuse will begin.

Ok, let me get close and personal. Many women who have not had a man in a long time will take anything that comes their way. When you find a man and call yourself falling in love, then you have just set yourself up for torment in many forms. The fact is that you do not even know anything about this guy. Now this so-called love you have has blinded you from seeing anything from that point on. Ok, now one of your children begins acting out of character and you do not even know it. The child begins to want to be with you all the time and when he or she sees you with your man, they go the other way. You regard her actions as jealousy, and you ignore her. The school sends a note saying that your child is failing, and it is not like her, but you jump all over the child saying you better stop playing around in school and concentrate on doing your work. At that time, your child says, “Mom, I need to tell you something,” but you say, “shut up and do what I tell you to do.” Are you getting this? This is but one of the situations children face. All because a parent is blind. This blindness is self-induced. Ok, let’s get closer. You cannot allow your children to sit in a man’s lap that you do not know. It is so bad now that you must watch everyone. Children will be children, and if they like you, they will crawl all over you and want to be right in your space. Nothing is wrong with that, providing you know that person, and at the same time you can give cautious glances and not a convict. Not knowing what is going on in your own home means that you do not care--period! I do not judge people, and I believe in giving the benefit of the doubt, but when it comes to my wife and children, especially in my home, wisdom will be in use.

Again, children are a gift from God, and we are his daycare providers. If we do not do all we are called to do for them, in hell will we lift up our eyes. At this point, there should be no reason why you do not know why it is important to guard your child. Please allow your children the freedom to be who they are and not lock them up because there are some demons out there. Fathers, You need to get saved and if you are saved, you need to let the Spirit have his way in your life everyday so you will be able to see what is going on in the lives of your children. Please allow me to share this with you. As a saved man who willingly lets God’s Spirit have his way in my everyday life, this is what I am able to do. When any one of my children are having a problem, the Lord shows it to me. Sometimes I pray about it, and other times I call them and tell them what the Lord has shown me. Example: one of my girls was in school under the bleaches at school with another girl, and they were smoking cigarettes. I was living in Mississippi, and she lived in North Carolina, but I saw what was going on. I called her and told her, and it scared the mess out of her. From that point on she was very wary as to what she would do.

The point: a saved parent yielding to the Lord was able to see danger. One of my other daughters was in college and a boy was stalking her. I told her, but she did not want to believe it. A little while later she called me and told me I was right. She was fearful and I told her what to do, and she did it, and after a while he went after some other female. My son was with a boy who was a bad influence on him. I saw it and told him not to be around him. I then informed my son that the Lord showed me that the boy would be in a shootout, and if you are with him you will be killed. My young son was mad and did not want to receive that word. Nevertheless, the day the lad was killed, my son was safe through the grace of God, who allowed him to walk around the corner just as his friend was gunned down. How is that for insight? It is not God’s will that anyone should perish, but that all might come into the knowledge of the truth. Without Gods truth, you cannot make it; nor shall you be able to protect your own children. I have just touched on a tiny bit of the truth concerning fathers.

I pray you can receive this vital information and be enlightened to the point that you will step up and be the Father that your own children need.

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